While I’m in Charleston, South Carolina, this week participating in and presenting a couple of workshops, I thought I would share a few of my favorite blogs. This one is from the fabulous Kristin Barton Cuthriell. “Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. “ -Aristotle You have a purpose. There is work to be done. You can do it. There is fun to be had. You can have it. There are people to love. You can love them. There are quiet moments to enjoy. You can enjoy them. There is love to be received. You can receive it. There is life worth experiencing. You can experience it. No matter what you do, there may always be someone out there who finds fault in you. The truth is… we all have faults. The truth is… we can always find a critic. Are you going to allow those critics or the critic that lives within you to hold you back from living your best life? Work hard, play hard, take time to rest, pray, and let life in. When you live with integrity, you can ignore the critic. Related articles • Appreciation Is The Language of the Soul (mothermaryswords.wordpress.com) • The love you give is the love you receive. (positive-thoughts.typepad.com) • The inner Critic (wellnessspirit.wordpress.com) Kristin Barton Cuthriell, M.Ed, MSW, LCSW Kristin is a licensed psychotherapist and educator currently working in private practice, counseling individuals, couples, and families. She utilizes a hope based cognitive behavior approach to therapy and other empirically validated treatments to help individuals suffering from depression, anxiety, relationship issues, and difficult life transitions. Prior to entering the mental health field, Kristin spent a decade teaching […]
Take a Restraining Order Out On Yourself
How long would you want to hang around someone who was constantly critical of how you looked, what you did, what you said, or how you acted? Would they be the friend you went to for support when you were down, or to celebrate your success? Let’s hope not! Loving support is about building you up, cheering you on, and having someone who believes in their heart that you can do anything that you set your mind on achieving. Now look at how you treat yourself. Are you critical and demanding or loving and supportive? If you are like most women, you say things to yourself that you would never say to a friend or loved one. I’ve watched women give themselves a little slap along with a bit of self-criticism. “I should have thought of that.” Slap. “I’m so sassy.” Slap. “I can’t believe I did that.” Slap. Many verbally abuse themselves for things like not being able to maintain a positive attitude in the face of real challenges, being less than perfect, and not looking the way fashion magazines say they should look. In relationships where someone is verbally or physically abusing another, a court will step in and issue a restraining order to the keep the other person from inflicting any more harm. It’s time to take a restraining order out on yourself. Begin to ease up on the demands and criticisms you direct towards yourself. Look for and celebrate the signs of the progress you are making rather than the distance you haven’t yet traveled. Catalog and have confidence in the things you do well. Treat yourself as you would treat another. What can you do to draft yourself as an […]
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