How long would you want to hang around someone who was constantly critical of how you looked, what you did, what you said, or how you acted?
Would they be the friend you went to for support when you were down, or to celebrate your success? Let’s hope not!
Loving support is about building you up, cheering you on, and having someone who believes in their heart that you can do anything that you set your mind on achieving.
Now look at how you treat yourself. Are you critical and demanding or loving and supportive?
If you are like most women, you say things to yourself that you would never say to a friend or loved one.
I’ve watched women give themselves a little slap along with a bit of self-criticism. “I should have thought of that.” Slap. “I’m so sassy.” Slap. “I can’t believe I did that.” Slap.
Many verbally abuse themselves for things like not being able to maintain a positive attitude in the face of real challenges, being less than perfect, and not looking the way fashion magazines say they should look.
In relationships where someone is verbally or physically abusing another, a court will step in and issue a restraining order to the keep the other person from inflicting any more harm.
It’s time to take a restraining order out on yourself.
Begin to ease up on the demands and criticisms you direct towards yourself. Look for and celebrate the signs of the progress you are making rather than the distance you haven’t yet traveled. Catalog and have confidence in the things you do well.
Treat yourself as you would treat another.
What can you do to draft yourself as an ally to support you in achieving your goals? How does changing how you treat yourself alter how others treat you? How much better does loving and supporting yourself feel?
Together we can do it!
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You deserve happiness today. Read this blog post and build yourself up. Refrain from negativity, be in joy!
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This is exactly what I needed to hear right now!
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This is exactly what I needed to hear right now!
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This is so true. We do this to ourselves without even thinking about it. Yet, if someone else were to say the things to us that we say to ourselves, we’d get all mad and righteous.
Yes indeed! Some of us would be put in jail if we talked to a child the way we talk to ourselves. It’s not helping!
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This is so true, we really do think too little of ourselves sometimes!
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Fantastic post…
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In the last couple of years, I have tried to counter this negative thought process. Since we are spiritual beings having a human experience, I found that acknowledging that I had a human moment and let it go, works for me.
Sounds like you have found a beautiful and simple process that works for you. Bravo! Thanks for sharing.
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You are such an inspiration, this is so easy to push to the bottom of the to-do list we all carry around! Thank you!
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Thank you!
Sage advice. It’s so easy to rush in and condemn ourselves. I’ve always loved that quote from Buddha: “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
That is indeed an awesome quote! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for reminding us (me!) to focus on what IS working, rather than how far we have to go. A simple truth that bears repeating… I need to hear it! Thank you again, so much. Gina
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This is great!! Too often we waste precious time with negative energy instead of positive thoughts. Thank you for the positive energy.
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Excellent image of controlling the negatives! Thank for this reminder.
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Great posts – Inspirational! Love these words: ” Look for and celebrate the signs of the progress you are making rather than the distance you haven’t yet traveled. Thanks so much for sharing and stopping by My Journal of Praise. I appreciate you.
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