Your thoughts are often your worst enemies. They are probably keeping you from loving everything about your body—and your life. You may be accepting the negative messages offered by your inner critic as true. And you feel bad. Struggling with losing and regaining the same 30 pounds over and over again is often a sign that your Gremlin has been given reign over your inner Queendom. Symptoms of this include: Feeling body shame when you look in the mirror Being overly critical of specific body parts Wanting to hide under the covers when you have sex with your partner Feeling impatient when the weight doesn’t drop off instantly Stop right there! Chances are those flimsy arguments offered up by your Gremlin are totally bogus. Search your thoughts with the bright light of Truth—those Universal Truths that are true no matter who, no matter what. Now you probably won’t be able to jump in an instant from feeling body shame to the Truth that your body is beautiful. But a feeling of relief lets you know you are headed in the right direction. Choose a different—better feeling—thought that creates an entirely new path. This might look like: Recognizing that your body is working hard to help you meet your goals. You didn’t get where you are overnight and it will take a little time to get where you want to go. Focusing on a body part you can praise. Focusing on the love you are expressing with your body. Having faith that your body is responding to your eating healthy and exercising. Changes are coming! When you catch yourself feeling a negative emotion, use that as a cue to look at your thinking. If you think […]
Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes!
Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes (Turn and face the strain) Ch-ch-Changes Changes by David Bowie I am so buzzing with positive anabolic energy that I was up most of the night cleaning my office and reaching out to clients I’ve been meaning to reconnect with for a while. What’s inspiring this jolt of energy? Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes! While spending the week in Sedona, Arizona, with the amazing Kendra Thornbury I fully connected with my vision for empowering women to: Become so comfortable with their bodies that they want to freely have sex with their partners instead of hiding out under the covers. Feel confident in a swimsuit so they eek out every ounce of fun with family and friends beach- or poolside. Let go of body shame once and for all. Cleaning my office was literally making space for a revolutionary new coaching program that will take women step-by-step to feeling lean and sexy on the inside so they can be lean and sexy on the outside. Let’s face it, there’s a lot of advice out there telling women to just look in the mirror and tell themselves, “I love you.” But to many women that just feels like a big fat lie. Everything I will be doing—a new website and blog, a breakthrough coaching program, speaking engagements, and intensive retreats will be targeted to help women go from feeling fat to fabulous. Join me on this exciting new journey and begin to embrace the lean and sexy goddess within. Together we can do it!
Don’t Hold Back
Woo hoo! After two days of giving my squished foot some rest, I got in an upper body workout this morning. After taking a moment to pat myself on the back for getting back on the exercise wagon, I took a look at the quality of my workout. Hmm. I definitely held back. Out of curiosity, I asked myself “why?” The answer was fear. Fear of hurting my foot and fear of the pain I might create. “Perfectly normal,” you might say. After all, I did just give my foot a pretty significant whack with a grooming table. But as Bruce Schneider likes to say, “Normal does not mean necessary.” In this case, the most discomfort I had was putting on my shoe. Sure, I had some touchy moments here and there, but once I established a way to do each exercise comfortably, why didn’t I give it my all? Recognizing that I was acting from the fear of the pain I might experience was one of the “ah-ha” opportunities from this whole situation. How often have I held back from life not because of the pain I was experiencing, but because of the fear of pain? The answer is “a lot,” and I don’t think I’m alone here. One of the first things we often do when reaching for something new is to throw a bunch of “but what if” scenarios in our way. That can easily stop us right there. That worst case scenario is just too big a risk–and creates too much fear. Most of the time, however, we aren’t really risking that worst case scenario. Sure, theoretically it might be possible that I could lift so heavy a weight that I […]
It’s Time to See Change in a New Way
Question: What does an 86-year-old woman doing an absolutely awesome gymnastic routine, a 74-year-old fitness instructor, and a 101-year-old running a marathon have that you don’t have? Answer: The belief that they can do it. Regardless if your goal is to walk again after an accident, to lose 10 or 100 pounds, or to climb a mountain, at the core of achieving anything is the belief that it is possible. One of the biggest limiting beliefs that we have as a society is that we decline with age. One way to test if this is true is to look and see if it is a Universal Truth—meaning it is true regardless of who, what, when, or how. The examples below clearly demonstrate that being in awesome physical shape is possible at any age. What happens as we age is that we change, but change does not mean decline unless that is how we define it. Our minds are powerful enough that if you expect to see decline, you will. And just about everyone believes in this decline and are using all the people who believe it to justify their belief. Imagine what would be different about your life if you looked for examples of people doing what you want as a reason to believe it can be rather than using everyone else as an excuse not to try? Another way to shift your beliefs is to reframe the story you have around change. For instance, lots of people think that with age they have to give up running because of the impact it has on their bodies. A reframe might look like: Perhaps this is actually the opportunity to take up another activity—such as biking […]
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