It’s happening.

They’re starting to appear.

They cannot be ignored.

And it’s only going to get worse.

Brace yourself!

The onslaught of bathing suit advertisements has begun!

(Insert the theme from Psyco here.)

All kidding aside, chances are that every time you see one of these ads, it makes you cringe inside. They are a reminder that your body isn’t where you want it to be.

They may even be a reminder that you aren’t fully living the life you want, either.

Maybe you dislike being in a swimsuit so much that you:

• Decline invitations to pool parties with your friends.
• Delay beach vacations with your family.
• Stand on the shore and watch as your family water skis or is having fun without you.

I’ll be perfectly honest.

Even though I love and appreciate my body, feel confident and attractive most of the time, and know I can absolutely rock a little black dress, getting into a swimsuit still brings up old fears.

I still catch myself judging specific body parts, and feeling insecure in any swimsuit that doesn’t have shorts or a skirt to camouflage trouble spots.

The good news is I have the tools—and the desire—to shift negative catabolic energy that is not serving me.

What is really going on here is that you and I are judging ourselves before we give anyone else the chance to judge us.

Too often, women are so afraid of how others “might” judge them that they curtail their life and how much fun they allow themselves to have.

This is especially true when it comes to being in swimsuits. You put off pool- or beach-side fun until some future time when you have lost the weight or are in better shape. Or if you do go, you are so self-conscious that you wind up being miserable.

The truth is, most people aren’t judging you because they are too focused on how they look in a swimsuit. And if they are judging, you may be a target of their focus for a total of 30 seconds before they turn their attention to someone else, or more likely, back to themselves.

How reasonable it is to curtail your life, fun, and joy for any amount of time because of what someone “might” think about you for 30 seconds?

Why waste even a moment of joy of your precious life?

Life is too short to put off fun—perhaps indefinitely—because of what someone “might” think. That’s like not being willing to go outside because a meteor “might” fall on your head.

What’s really happening is you are judging yourself way more harshly and for much longer than anyone else on the planet. This really isn’t about the judgment of others. This is about your continual self-judgment.

The good news? You have the power to choose what you think! (Yes, you do!)

It’s time to start living fully now. Even before you have lost the weight.

And believe it or not, that is one of the keys of releasing the weight for good!

Most women think that they will be happy and fully live their lives when they lose the weight.

That is keeping you stuck in the rebound weight-gain cycle.

You have to be happy and live your life fully and then the weight will more easily and naturally come off.

This creates a new optimal wellness spiral.

The better you feel about yourself, the better you look—and the more fun you allow yourself to have. That in turn boosts your ability and desire to stick to your plan to eat healthy and move your body, which makes you feel good about yourself . . . and repeat.

The next thing you know you have met your weight-loss goals and are easily maintaining a body you love.

Not only will shifting your negative thoughts help turbo-charge your wellness actions, it enables you to feel better right now.

But the fear you have around swimsuits is real. How do you make that change?

Here are 9 tips for shifting your thoughts to change how you feel about the upcoming swimsuit season.

1. Decide that that being fully present, fully being Who you are, and having fun anyway is way more important to you than what someone “might” think about you.
2. Pay attention to what you think about others. Are you judging them harshly or are you so concerned about your own body that you aren’t giving them much thought? And if you are judging others, how long are you focused on them before your thoughts turn back to yourself?
3. Find things to compliment and appreciate about other people’s bodies.
4. Practice “new” thoughts using affirmations, such as: “I appreciate that my body is healthy.” “I am present and enjoying this moment.” “I am fit, strong, and slim, getting fitter, stronger, and slimmer.” Create or choose an affirmation that makes you viscerally feel a sense of relief.
5. Pick someone whose body you admire. Then image what it would feel like to have that body. Would you feel confident, appreciative, and sexy? Practice feeling that way right now. For instance, think about a time you have felt confident and sexy in the past—and feel confident and sexy now.
6. When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about your body, shift your attention to other parts you can appreciate. For me, shifting my focus from my belly to my legs feels better. It can even be that your heart is beating or you have beautiful hands—whatever you can fully appreciative.
7. Think about the love that All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) has for you and your magnificent body. Truly, from that broader perspective you are perfect just as you are.
8. Recognize that your body is a gift for which it is appropriate to be grateful.
9. Appreciate the healthy food and exercise you are doing and how that is helping you create the fit, strong, and healthy body you desire.

Pay attention to those habitual patterns of negative thoughts that you have about your body and your life. Choose and commit to one thing that you can do to practice new thoughts.

And when you do get that pool-party invitation, go and have fun!

Together we can do it!

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