It’s normal in our society for women to turn to liposuction to help get the body they want. This is an expensive and invasive operation that literally sucks fat from the body.

But suggest that they do their own mental and spiritual liposuction for self-empowerment and true healing and this strikes fear into women’s hearts.

Why are so many reluctant to seek the easier and more permanent solution?

No. 1, A belief that doing the inner work isn’t fast enough. Most women want instant results. Despite the lengthy and uncomfortable recovery and potentially painful and life-threatening complications, physical liposuction feels more instant.

No. 2, Fear of the unknown. Most women are afraid to look at their inner workings because they fear the person they will discover.

Let me give you some tough love here.

That you and other women think you are so awful is totally and completely bogus. Have you murdered anyone lately? Have you robbed a bank? Seriously, if All-That-Is knows those secret thoughts and beliefs (and She does) and absolutely adores you, perhaps you can trust that you might really like who you find, too?

No. 3, Looking for the answers outside yourself. We’ve all been trained that the answer is in the action, that other people/things/situations are the source of our happiness, that if we just do things the “right” way, people will love us and our body and life will magically transform.

Let me be blunt. This is looking for love in all the wrong places!

No. 4, Worrying about what other people will think. You . . . and almost every woman on the planet . . . were taught NOT to love yourself. You were told that it wasn’t OK to like yourself, to fully express who you are, and to honor your needs. That to do so would be conceited, selfish, and vain.

And this is what is keeping you stuck with extra weight.

Here’s how to tell if you are a candidate for mental and spiritual liposuction.

Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you” and really mean it?

If you are like most women, this feels like a big fat lie.

I know.

It wasn’t too many years ago that I literally could not look myself in the eye and say anything positive. All I could see were my flaws. When I tried saying positive affirmations about myself or my body they would literally stick in my throat because they were such lies.

Wow I’ve come a long way.

Today I love my body—and myself!—and I love my life more than I thought possible.

Now I know that to be the person I wanted to be, I had to start with learning to love me.

And the amazing consequence to this?

As I learned to love myself first, I was also opening my heart more fully to others.

Far from being the selfish act I thought it was, self-love gives you the energy and empowerment to be more self-less.

And it is the key for getting the body that you want.

Changing your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs is like mental and spiritual liposuction.

As the Law of Attraction says, “As within, so without.”

This is particularly true with your body.

It was only when I did the inner work of changing my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about myself, what I was capable of, and what I deserved, that I found the solutions for me to not only lose the weight, but to easily keep it off now for more than 3 years.

While a powerful exercise is to look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I love you,” many women can’t do it long enough to see significant changes because it feels like such a fib.

So start small.

Stand in front of the mirror for 3 minutes and focus on at least three things you can appreciate about yourself.

Maybe you can focus on how much you appreciate:

• Your eyes and being able to see.
• Your smile that transforms your face.
• Your legs that carry you through your day.

Begin practicing appreciating these parts of you until you can look in the mirror and say:

• I love my eyes.
• I love my smile.
• I love my legs.

And then add three new things about yourself to appreciate, and work up to loving them. Keep going until you can honestly look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you.”

One of the things that shifted me from self-loathing to self-love is that I realized that it was not only OK to love myself, but was who I was meant to be. It was when I finally “got” that Source (God, the Universe, Higher Self—whatever works for you) not only loves me, but absolutely adores me and sees my body as perfect.

Who am I to contradict All-That-Is?

If I am loved, that must mean that I am loveable and worthy of self-love. It was time for me to appreciate who I am, and the unique gifts and perspective that I bring to this growing and expanding Universe.

Just as I am loved and adored by All-That-Is, you are loved and adored—exactly as you are.

You are so worthy. You are beautiful. You add irreplaceable value to this world.

Who are you to contradict the Creator of everything?

• What are those things about yourself that you can agree with Source are worth appreciating?
• What can you do today to acknowledge and begin expressing love for those things about yourself?

Look for those things. Acknowledge those things. Celebrate those things.

And then watch how you begin to see–and treat–yourself differently. Watch for how your body begins to change. Watch for the body you want.

Together we can do it!