How to Satisfy the Craving Without Food

Since I’m just back from Charleston, South Carolina, I’m sharing one of my favorite blogs from the past. How do you think that the experience of eating a piece of cake will make you feel? Yes, I know it will feel good, but be specific. Satisfied? Content? Comforted? Connected with others who are eating it? Loved? Overeating is often an attempt to find the love you crave and fill the void you are feeling in your heart and soul with food. It is looking in the wrong place to feel satisfied, content, comforted, connected, and loved. What if you could easily get the feelings you really want from eating that piece of cake without ever having to lift a bite to your mouth? What if the feelings were more delicious than any piece of cake could possibly be? And what if those feelings inspired action that made your wellness goals faster, easier, and more fun to achieve? Hard to believe I know. But would you be willing to give it a try? Would you be willing to spend just a few minutes a day to get it? Would you be willing to look for and notice the changes you are experiencing so you can keep building on your success? Would you be willing to let it be that simple? If so, keep reading! Now imagine yourself having achieved your wellness goal. How does that feel? (Remember, be specific and feel it right now!) It might be something like: “Being 30 pounds lighter makes me feel confident. It makes me feel attractive. It makes me feel strong and beautiful. It feels invigorating and it makes me want to give my workout my all. It feels satisfying to slip on my jeans and have them be comfortable, and to know that I look good. It feels […]

Tips to Increase Your Momentum Towards Meeting Your Wellness Goals

While I’m in Charleston, South Carolina, for a retreat, I’m sharing some of my favorite blogs from the past. One of the ways I used to trip myself up was to second-guess everything I was doing. While doing one workout, I was wondering if another might be better. I’d spend a lot of mental energy debating between taking the elevator or stairs, and mentally chastise myself over what I ate. Being wishy-washy about your decisions—or downright critical—is the mental equivalent of letting the air out of your tires. It is an energetic leak that will slow the success you really want. While debating your decision when the choices are fairly similar will slow your progress, you will give yourself a flat tire in a second if you choose something you believe is actually harmful. Negative thoughts and emotion can literally impact your metabolism and other weight-related systems making it easier to gain and harder to release weight. Actually doing the action you believe to be detrimental—and the resulting guilt, shame, etc.—increases the negative effects. Remember this the next time you are having a thought such as, “That cake is so fattening. I really shouldn’t eat it,” or “I know fried chicken is bad, bad, bad.” Don’t eat it! Unless you can soften your thoughts and beliefs about it, pick something else! Every action is preceded by a thought and belief, all of which have energy. Think of each step as increasing your momentum. Aligning the energy of a thought . . . with the energy of a belief . . .  AND the energy of your action in the direction of your goal is like a train gaining speed towards your destination. It has the full […]

The Missing Link to Getting the Body You Want

Action is a tricky thing. There’s a lot of advice out there saying you have to jump into action to spur the forces of the Universe to work on your behalf. And that’s kinda sorta true. It is true that you will never get fit sitting on your sofa. But, why are some people joyfully working out and some feel unmotivated to get off the sofa? Because the momentum for action begins way before the moment comes to get off the sofa and just do it. There is a build up of energy from thoughts, emotions, and beliefs behind the action or inaction. And willpower alone is often not enough to break out of the energetic rut you have created. For instance, if you have spent a heck of a lot of time thinking about how much you hate exercise, you hate sweating, you hate your body, you hate how your body feels when it moves, etc., etc., getting up off the sofa will take Herculean effort. Not doing the internal work to shift this existing energetic momentum is one reason why so many diet and exercise programs fail. This is the missing link to getting the body you want. When you think about the underlying principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy” (also known at the Law of Attraction), being overly focused on where you are—or where you have been—just keeps summoning similar experiences, situations, and people so that your results never seem to change. In other words, you don’t have the mental and physical energy to get off the sofa or maintain your action if you are able to get started–even if you desperately want to. This can lead to frustration, disillusionment, and even giving up […]

By |May 1st, 2013|Action|1 Comment

Is Action Always the Answer?

Action is a tricky thing. There’s a lot of advice out there saying you have to jump into action to spur the forces of the Universe to work on your behalf. And that’s kinda sorta true. It is true that you will never get fit sitting on your sofa. But, why are some people joyfully working out and some feel unmotivated to get off the sofa? Because the momentum for action begins way before the moment comes to get off the sofa and just do it. There is a build up of energy from thoughts, emotions, and beliefs behind the action or inaction. And willpower alone is often not enough to break out of the energetic pattern you have created. For instance, if you have spent a heck of a lot of time thinking about how much you hate exercise, you hate sweating, you hate your body, you hate how your body feels when it moves, etc., etc., getting up off the sofa will take Herculean effort. Not doing the internal work to shift this existing energetic momentum is why so many diet and exercise programs fail. When you think about the underlying principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy” (also known at the Law of Attraction), being overly focused on where you are—or where you have been—just keeps summoning similar experiences, situations, and people so that your results never seem to change. In other words, you just don’t have the mental and physical energy to get off the sofa or maintain your action if you are able to get started–even if you desperately want to. This can lead to frustration, disillusionment, and even giving up on achieving your goals. How do you begin to slow […]

Truth or Consequences . . .

While I’m in Charleston, South Carolina, this week participating in and presenting at a couple of workshops, I thought I would share a couple of my favorite blogs. This one is from my fabulous friend and mentor, Jennifer Barley. The theme right now in my house is action. Making decisions and taking action. Moving forward. Getting clarity about the goals and figuring out how to make those plans come alive. It feels good. And I am now feeling like a student of action. I am studying what makes us move, what creates flow, and what stops us dead in our tracks. Today—let’s talk about consequences. As long as you want the benefits (of the goal) with no consequence—you will always stay stuck. Everything has consequences. People may judge you, people may not approve, you might outgrow people in your life. You might lose money. You might have to re-paint. You might be vulnerable. You might get hurt. Instead, focus on what “might” happen if you do fulfill your goal. You might be empowered. You might go to the next level. You might fully love. You might meet new people. You might feel fulfilled. You might help others. You might feel better than you have in years. Focus on the benefits of the goal—and risk the consequences. You are capable of handling the “might” consequences—and you deserve to have the “might” benefits. Tony Robbins, the master of motivation, has The Ultimate Success Formula: 1. Know your outcome. 2. Get yourself to take action by deciding to do so. 3. Notice what you’re getting from your actions. 4. If what you are doing is not working, change your approach. Seems simple enough, doesn’t it? Where are you […]

By |July 23rd, 2012|Action, Reblog|0 Comments